My narcissistic mother was always cold. I never felt any warmth from her. However I always felt warm in the presence of my aunt. I do not ever remember feeling warmth from my mother, not even during my early years. I heard her claim to be my mother, but I…

Whether it is projection, gas-lighting or blame shifting narcissists believe things about other people because it fits their narrative and protects their fake self. But to us normal people, some of the things narcissists believe are absurd. Narcissists create a fake self that constantly has to be validated. Because their…

Narcissists not only catastrophize, they also cause others to catastrophize! Catastrophize means to imagine the worst possible outcome of an action or event according to the Meriam-Webster online dictionary https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/catastrophize. Narcissists operate in a world where everything is extreme and drastic. This radical way of life seems inevitable when you…

When you are anxious you worry. When you worry you get more anxious. This is true for me thanks to several narcissists. The worst thing about anxiety is that is causes anxiety. Once you become anxious about something you also become hypervigilant, hypersensitive and apprehensive about that thing. This makes…

The complete self-focus of a narcissistic mother robs her children of many things, but the saddest thing she takes is their innocence. I know, my mother is a narcissist. Children come into the world with innocence. They are in a state of not knowing. In a healthy family a child’s…

My narcissistic mother detested my paternal grandmother so my grandmother must have been okay. Lucy Merle defied a lot of stereotypes and more than a few norms during her life. Lucy Merle was my paternal grandmother, but I did not understand during her lifetime just how much she defied. …

Narcissists do not take responsibility for anything, so they must place the responsibility on someone else. All misplaced responsibilities are cruel, but some are more unreasonable than others. Narcissists have an extremely negative reaction to responsibility. Their mental reaction is similar to the physical reaction of someone who is allergic…

Having a narcissistic parent is a curse you feel for your whole life. My mother is a covert narcissist. For 66 years I felt that dealing with her was a both a curse and a cross I had to bear. I did not give myself permission until 2 ½ years…

Narcissists believe they are entitled to anything and everything that they want. They do not understand the concept of privilege. Things that normal people consider a privilege are twisted by narcissists into entitlements that help them present, maintain and protect the fake self they create. For most of us a…